Role Models Today

“I’m sorry,” I said. “I didn’t mean to offend you.”

I was forty-two years old. I had a wife and two children, a house in the suburbs, a car, a dog, a cat, and a career that was neither a success nor a failure. I had never lost my innocence, because I had never had any to lose. I had been born old, like Gertrude Stein, but without her genius. I had been born careful, cautious, skeptical, and afraid. I had never believed in anything, not really, not deeply. I had never believed that the world was good, or that I was good, or that the people I loved would never hurt me. I had always known that they would. I had always known that everything ends, that everything falls apart, that everything is a story we tell ourselves to keep the dark away.

“I asked her what she meant by ‘innocence.’ She looked at me for a long time, and then she said, ‘Innocence is the belief that something is true because you want it to be true. It is the belief that the world is good because you are good. It is the belief that the people you love will never hurt you, and that the people you hate will never win. It is a beautiful belief, and it is always wrong.’” Role Models

“She was a large woman,” he said, “with a large head and large hands. She wore a brown corduroy suit and a brown felt hat, and she sat in a large armchair, and she talked. She talked about the war, the First World War, which she had lived through, and about the way the young men had come back from it, changed. She said they had lost their innocence, and that this loss was the only thing that mattered, the only thing worth writing about. She said that Hemingway had lost his innocence, but that he had found a way to write about it that was like a clean, white line on a blank page. She said that Fitzgerald had lost his innocence, but that he had found a way to write about it that was like a beautiful, sad party that went on too long. She said that she herself had never lost her innocence, because she had never had any to lose. She said that innocence was a luxury of the young, and that she had never been young.”

I met him at a party given by a couple who were both therapists. The party was in a large, white, high-ceilinged room in a house that had once been a barn. The therapists, like many in their profession, were rich. Their friends were rich, or at least successful—lawyers, doctors, producers, professors, and, like me, writers. I was a writer of some reputation, but my reputation was not as great as his. He was a famous poet, one of those poets who become famous without ever writing a best-seller, without ever appearing on television, without ever being photographed in a magazine. He was famous because his poems were beautiful and strange and because he had been, for a time, the lover of a famous actress. The famous actress was dead now, dead of cancer, and the poet was old. He was seventy-three, and his face was a map of wrinkles, his hair was white and thin, and his eyes were the color of the sea in winter. He stood by the fireplace, holding a glass of white wine, and people gathered around him, listening to him talk. I stood on the edge of the group, not wanting to intrude, but wanting to hear what he said. He was telling a story about a time when he was young, a time when he had gone to Paris and had met Gertrude Stein. “I’m sorry,” I said

“What’s that?”

“You didn’t offend me,” he said. “You just reminded me of something I’d rather forget.” I had never lost my innocence, because I

I closed my eyes, and I waited for morning. End of text.