Before you start a new wellness habit, ask: Am I doing this because I am ashamed of who I am, or because I care about who I will be? Shame-based wellness fails. Care-based wellness lasts.

If you hate running, don't run. Dance, swim, lift, do yoga, or just stretch on the floor while watching TV. Movement should lower your cortisol (stress hormone), not raise it because you’re dreading the gym. The Verdict You do not have to choose between being a "wellness warrior" and a "body positive babe."

The issue is that beauty isn't the point. Health isn't always the point either—but function and feeling are. Telling someone with chronic back pain that they don't need to exercise because they are beautiful ignores the physical reality of their suffering. The truce between these two camps is being brokered by a new concept: Body Neutrality.